Why Every Woman Should Go to a Strip Club

Do you want to feel more confident in your body and your sexuality? This is for all you women out there who have never been to a strip club or feel like you shouldn't go because it isn't "lady-like".  You may be thinking, "No way that isn't for me" or "Why should I go to a place where guys go to gawk over woman who are selling their bodies for money?"  Well, I'm going to tell you why you should!

First, some back story about me.  I'm a married woman with two young ones.  I met my husband over 4 years ago in the military, after three months of dating we got married, and planned on having our first child immediately.  I bet a few of you can relate, but a few of you may not, and that's okay!  This is all about why I feel YOU can benefit from my experience.

My first experience at a strip club was also my husband's.  To put it simply, we are a very open couple when it comes to communication and to be frank it gives us many opportunities to grow together.  My husband's birthday was coming up so we had been discussing, with a close friend of ours, what we were going to do to celebrate.  Well, the topic of going to a strip club came up and we were set on it!  Oh, at the time of the event I was pushing 9 months pregnant as well.

Fast forward to the event, we've met up with our close friend and their group of friends(mostly women) a few hours before.  Most of them pregame during that time and play a game where flipping coins is involved(I don't remember what the game was called, it's not important).  After they're all thoroughly tipsy we head out to the club!

Upon arrival, me and our friend barely make it to the door when I am SWARMED by women working at the club!  They are just fawning over my belly and the fact that I was bringing my husband here while so pregnant!  This was one of those moments I will never forget because it made me feel so gorgeous and well... empowered!  For me, going to a strip club with my husband isn't something I feel should be so rare.  In fact, I think it's ridiculous that it's so taboo!  The attention I got was something out of this world and it made me feel so good about myself.

Then, we get in and take some seats around the main stage.  There's quite a few of us so we're basically taking up the entirety of the seats.  There were a few other people in the club but they were spread out in further seating areas down the stage.  The music starts up and the strippers start coming to stage one by one, after a song would go by they'd move to another section on the stage and a new girl would come up for her main performance.  Seeing these woman up on stage coming up to you and showing it all, was definitely an amazing sight.  What was even better for me was when they'd give the birthday boy, my husband, attention.  I was in heaven.  

I wasn't drunk but I could've sworn I was by how much I was enjoying this experience.  Aside from me loving how much my husband was enjoying himself I was enjoying how these women made me feel.  They gave me attention and commended me for being such an amazing wife and my husband being so lucky to have me.  I may have went for him but I also went for me and they did not disappoint.  Sexually and emotionally I was in a state of euphoria.

Now, that was my first experience at a strip club but I've had another one as well.  This time, my husband wasn't in attendance.  You may be wondering this already, but yes he was aware that I went and he was invited but decided against going.

This time around it was for my friend's 21st birthday!  She really wanted to go after I mentioned about my experience so we made the plans, she invited more friends, and we went!  It was a different experience this round; I wasn't pregnant and the strip club was fairly popular!

We all met up at her house and drove together to the club.  I made it known that I would step up as DD, since she couldn't find one, so I didn't drink a drop of alcohol this time either.  We got to the club, went through security, the boys ran to the bathroom, and I attempted to take out money only to find out their ATM was broken(just before they brought a sign out to hang on it).  Well, then it was just me and my friend standing there while we waited for the boys.  Soon my friend's approached by a drunk woman(who we found out later was one of the strippers) who starts inching to grab her *ss.  Eventually she pulled at my friend's tights and pointed out that the tights were cute and that we're cute.  It was quite the compliment and to say the least we were a bit surprised but also flattered.  The girl left as soon as she came. 

After the boys came back and we withdrew money, it was time to enjoy the actual stripping.  These women at this club were definitely not amateurs!  The amount of sex appeal they radiated was phenomenal to say the least.  On a side note, at this strip club the most these woman revealed were their b**bs while at the first one I went to they took off everything so the sex appeal was high.  My friends and I were living it up.  I had to stop myself from making it rain with the little I had taken out!

Eventually, my friend went to get her first lap dance.  She was accompanied by one of our friends since she was nervous, but let me tell you that girl came back with the biggest smile on her face.  The night went forward and once again I was in nothing short of heaven as these beautiful women danced on stage.  Each one of them gorgeous and confident!  Their styles of dancing and ways of seducing all different, but enticing.  Being front row and center to witness each one and admire them and their assets was a site and experience I feel everyone should experience.  I'm glad I could accompany my friend for her first time to the strip club.  

Aside from these woman showing "it all" there's way more about the strip club that no one takes into account.  These women are putting themselves out there and OWNING it!  They all carry themselves in a way that makes you want to give money to them.  They've earned every dollar they're given by using, not just their bodies, but their minds.  They know the way to look at you, the way to talk with you, and the way they can make themselves look good that will make you want to spend money.  Most notably, every woman is different.  They all have different stories, different body shapes and proportions, and different personalities that will make you admire them.  As a woman, I loved seeing how different they all looked and acted on stage.  It makes you admire them.  None of them had a specific "look" or "standard" in physique and it was beautiful.

Near the end of the night I received a lap dance.  The girl was so kind and beautiful.  She said all the right things to make my head whirl and make me feel special.  Her customer service skills were on point and if I had more money for another dance she would've sold me.  

At the end of the day, I admire these women.  They emit confidence that I hope every one of you can see and strive for, especially when standards these days for the "perfect body" are so stupid.  Stereotypes for women are ridiculous because we're all different.  The way the media causes us look at ourselves in the mirror and judge every "flaw" is disgusting!  Why can't you look at yourself and love every part?  These women have the confidence in their bodies to get up on stage and be open with their sexuality to make that money. You should have that confidence too.    

Don't be Afraid to Tell Yourself when Something isn't Working

Life doesn't have a manual for you to read to figure out what it is you're supposed to do or what to strive for.  People will always give you advice that they feel worked for them or other people they have encountered.  Sometimes, that just doesn't cut it for you as an individual and I'm here to tell you THAT'S OKAY!!

There are many things that people want to do.  People want to have families,  become famous for bull riding, win the spelling bee etc.  We're all different and have different desires that we feel will make us feel fulfilled.  Though, there always seems to be a linear path, for most people, on how to get things done.  At least, that's how I see it.

Now-a-days things are changing but for the longest time I, personally, was always getting the same advice.  I'd be told, "don't do anything too risky," "have a full-time job with benefits," etc.  Even now I feel the inner workings of that advice and honestly, for me it's all b*llshit.  There isn't ONE way of doing things for EVERYONE!

I've had A LOT of different jobs, normal and contracted, and one thing stands.  I've never had the prior experience for most of those jobs.  I never finished college, I'm a drop out, and I quit all of my jobs.  Sounds like I'm a quitter right?  Nah.  I just KNOW how I want to do things in my life.  Or at least, I know how I don't want to do things in my life.

I'm not saying that you'll know either of those.  I'm saying, if something doesn't feel right, go with your gut and never give up.  Life doesn't have a manual.  Just know that I believe in you!

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Dropping Everything and Just Doing What You Love

Sometimes I want to do just this.  Drop every dang thing and start a new.  Take a risk and ride the waves.  Why does society have such constraints that disallow me to actually do so?  One could be a writer, an artist, a dancer, an astronaut, a lawyer, or a fighter if things were that easy.  Sadly, they're not.

One can dream.  I wish to someday just work for myself.  It's never an overnight thing.  It's a thing that takes time and patience as well as perseverance, time, and a constant flow of money.  Every day you have to push to achieve your goals.  When you fail you have to get up and continue moving.

I love failure.  Failure is the sole thing that allows me to learn from my mistakes.  I don't want a road map to success I want to figure it out on my own.  If there's some guidance on the way from peers or Youtube videos, that's completely fine, but I would rather get that hands on experience.  When I do it this way I know I'll feel way more accomplished and fulfilled than the latter.

I've been sitting on this metaphoric cliff telling me to just jump and go for it.  Being 25 is definitely a factor for me because when I look back on my younger years I feel I had a better shot at shooting for the stars then than now, since I have other commitments attached to me.  With a full-time job and a family to care for it all just seems so out of reach.

I have my days where I can make this mediocrity of everyday workout in my mind but executing it is so dragging and hard to endure.  Some people like that, but I am not one of them.  I like a challenge and also to enjoy the actual things I'm doing.  Currently I'm in a field of work that doesn't suit my tastes and it's strictly for income.  There are people at my job who I enjoy being around but my day doesn't consist of socializing with them so they aren't the reason I'm still there.  I do have goals and ambitions for this job while I'm there but a lot of the time I find myself thinking that I would much rather be progressing somewhere else.

I always wonder, do I take the risk of no income for a while in order to reach my goals or do I just push day in and day out trying to force my exhausted body to get up early and stay up late to achieve my goals? 

Sucking at Fortnite

I swear, Fornite is one of the most annoying games to try to get better at.  My opinion stands with this as well as any type of battle royale genre.  Especially, when you have things to do like go to work, go to school, or in general just have a lot of other things in life going on.

Gaming is great.  It's the best outlet for anyone to just hop into for a few minutes or a few hours at a time.  It just sucks when the expectation is to be GREAT at the games you enjoy.

Personally, I'm a casual gamer.  Having a full-time job, a family, and other things in life to do just keep me away from the game when I really want to enjoy it and get better.  Part of the reason I want to get better is because my friends are so good at it.  Sometimes TOO GOOD.


There's this expectation for me to be great at it and sometimes my friends take it too far.  I'm okay with a little bit of heckling here or there but after a while it just starts getting to me and I stop having fun.  Obviously, I don't want to tell them to tone it down because then I'm just being a downer but I guess me getting in a bad mood makes the gaming experience even worse for everyone.

I try to play when I can and get better when I can but I feel sometimes it's just not worth it.  It's a game; if you want it to be a profession for you in the future or even NOW I get it.  Just, sometimes I feel people take the game too seriously and forget to have fun just fucking around with your friends or have fun getting totally dicked on in game.

Part of the reason why I say battle royales are hard to get better at is because of how often the RNG GODS shit on you.  Oh hey look a gun!  Wait, nvm, someone swooped in under me and stole it.  Oh hey an smg!  Wait, nvm, they just one pumped my face to oblivion.  The game is SERIOUSLY irritating.  Aside from playground mode and 50v50 there is almost no way for casual players to get better.

One has to remember though, casual players probably shouldn't be that good, but hey, someone has to complain about it.

Comparing Playing on Xbox VS PC

Let's talk...Overwatch.  I absolutely LOVE playing this fucking game.  I've mainly been an Xbox user because both me and my husband can play together.  His Xbox is my home Xbox, so I use that while he uses mine.  To put it simply we game share.

Overwatch isn't a game for everyone but for me I really enjoy it...FOR THE MOST PART.  I won't get into it but competitive matches grind my fucking gears.  I'm just going to focus on the switch I made from Xbox to PC when it comes to the differences between the two.  Now by no means have I stopped playing it on Xbox but I do thoroughly enjoy playing on the PC more as of right now.  

When I hop on Xbox it becomes a toxic mess.  Though, in my personal opinion I think it's more convenient for people to just pick up a controller as compared to turning on their computer and sitting at a desk using mouse and keyboard.  Chillin' on the couch is simpler when it comes down to it.   Granted for some people PC is more convenient when choosing what to play Overwatch on and I can easily point out why. 

First thing to compare, the chat functions.  You're more likely to get a team of people who will communicate on PC rather than Xbox.  You pretty much have to go through flaming hoops just to switch over to game chat.  This opinion will be under the assumption that you don't have auto join enabled for game chat(or it's messed up for you like it has for me and others recently).

If you miss the time to switch over while you're picking your character you don't just have a mouse to click to where you need to go and sometimes you feel like you're scrambling more to get there on Xbox.  Honestly, I could just be clumsy with the controller but it feels like a battle just to get to game chat when I fuck up with the buttons I need to press.  Also, if you're partied up with people and using the party chat function on Xbox then it's basically the same thing.  Plus, most people just decide to STAY in their party chat since they figure other people won't have mics and aren't willing to talk even if they do.  So a lot of people are discouraged to chat in game anyway.  Especially at the lower tiers rank wise and also casual gamers.

When it comes down to it PC goers also have another function: Typing in chat.  Even if someone lacks a mic they can communicate with not only their WHOLE TEAM but the other team if they choose to.  If you want to type something out to the whole team on Xbox, you can't fucking do that quickly.  Again, it comes back to going through a fucking complicated cycle just to communicate on a system that you'd think would make it easy.  That's probably the worst thing I'll talk about of these comparisons to be honest.

Now let's jump into aiming.  PC is definitely superior.  You can have basically zero skill when it comes to aiming and you can at least do better on PC than on console.  Most people get this concept.  If you've been rocking a controller your whole life you probably prefer it BUT are able to do both.  A lot of people will go and get controllers that they can customize (either if they're a serious gamer or one who wants to flex with the best) for better control when aiming.  Like adding KontrolFreeks to the analogs or buying a Scuf controller(not sponsored).  My experience with aiming is basically it's better for me to use a mouse than a controller, but that doesn't stop me from still trying my all to have that sweet sweet accuracy on point. 

PC ACCURACY

 XBOX ACCURACY

Yeah I know what you're thinking.  6% isn't that much.  It's a hell of a big difference guys.  That means my aim on PC is significantly better than on Xbox.  I'll be honest I change the way I play based off of this.  I play more shot gun and locking on characters on Xbox and more Sniping characters on PC, it's just come down to that.  That's not a bad thing though, sometimes you have to realize what you should play that's more beneficial on a different platform.

Alright let's close this out.  Those were the main two differences I've seen so far since transitioning from Xbox to PC on Overwatch.  I'll most likely get more in-depth about the other things that either peeve, concern, or restore my faith with the community, ranking system, and so on and so forth for Overwatch so stay tuned!

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Stop Under Valuing Your Art!

Oh hey look!  I spy an offer for $150.  Sounds like something I'd be interested in!  They want my style?  Sweet!  Wanted in a week's time.  Sounds doable.  They want an artist willing to draw ten characters...each of which are 500x500 pixels?!  You're out of your mind... if you think... that I'm... NOT going to take that delicious deal!!!!!!!

Clearly just kidding right now.  

That's a rip off and an UTTER WASTE of PRECIOUS TIME!  Stop settling for weak funds when you need them.  If you take over an hour to do something, you absolutely need to become an hourly worker and make the amount you deserve.  Even if you don't take that long you should still at least charge as if you are one.

Now you may say, "but my work sucks so I should price it WAY cheaper".  NO!  Not only are you allowing buyers to saturate the market with cheap ass offers, but you're wasting your time doing that only to be able to buy lunch two days in-a-row.  It also gives people an invite to shame people, who work as artists, as if they're not worth the amount of effort they put in.

Quality does matter, but if someone isn't willing to pay decently for your time THAT should be an incentive to look elsewhere.  The fact of the matter is either you went to them or THEY CAME TO YOU. Someone is willing to pay for your work, you just have to reach them.  Product should never be a hand out and you shouldn't struggle to make a living(or get a meal) no matter what your line of work is.  If you flip burgers and fill orders for 40/hrs a day you should be able to provide yourself with(all basic necessities) a roof over your head, food in your belly, insurance under your belt, and some extra on the side to save and spend as you please.

There are people who WILL argue pricing with you, turn them down IMMEDIATELY.  Unless you're willing to give them a sale for additional pieces they're willing to buy, do NOT bend.  They may whip out the ol' "I can find someone who can do the job for less!" Then GO HUNNY!  I've got better things to do than waste my time on you when someone else wants to pay for my shit IN CASH not a LEMME BUMP YOUR PRICE DOWN TO FIT MY CHEAP ASS POCKETS!

Some may and will argue that some artwork just isn't worth the(at least) minimum wage you are asking for.  It MAY be true.  When it comes down to it if you're not getting work DON'T CHANGE YOUR PRICE!  Get better at your craft or find clients who will buy.  When you do get that first job you'll feel great for refusing to sell yourself short.  It may take years and you may have to go get extra training and/or a job on the side, but don't devalue your art or time.  They're both precious things.  People work so hard to get the masses to understand the value of art; They are more relevant in this world than you may know.

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